We’re excited to announce that we are expecting a baby in
February of next year! Though the pregnancy came as a bit of a surprise to us,
this child is a true blessing and we cannot wait to become parents and start
our family together.
If you have noted a decrease in the frequency of posts on
here recently, now you know why. We have been busy planning for the next few months
and preparing for the arrival of a new person in our lives. (I have also been
cooking a lot less these past few months because of first trimester nausea that
has made it difficult to be in the kitchen for any significant amount of time!)
Though everything seems so new, exciting, and a bit scary right
now, I am doing a fairly good job at keeping my mind at ease and remaining
stress-free about all of the big changes happening in my life. When you accept change openly and are
comfortable relinquishing some level of control over your life, you are able to
live a simpler and happier existence. Working towards positive changes in life is important, but
we should try not to “force” reality to conform to our every wish, or we risk
ending up unhappy and dissatisfied. Many surprises in life are beautiful
and I strongly believe that we often try too hard to control everything in our lives and that this just
leads to more stress and unhappiness in the end (when things don’t turn out as
planned). One of the biggest causes of frustration and sadness is the gap
between how we want things to be and how they really are. Even if you don’t necessarily believe in some sort of deity or universal
power having a say in how your life turns out, it can be amazingly freeing to just
let go and allow nature to decide certain things for you. Remember that
everything in life is temporary and that you will have to let go of everything
eventually.
Though I think it is important to be in a committed and
loving relationship before you start thinking about having kids, babies don’t
always need to be “planned” or to fit perfectly within your “10-year plan”. The
timing of our child may not be ideal in the eyes of some (we have a wedding to
plan for next year, I have a new job starting this week, and perhaps we aren’t
as financially ready as we should be), but we strongly believe the universe has
a plan for us and that things will work out just fine in the end. Life is full of miracles and you may miss
them if you are too busy trying to control every little detail around you. The
only thing you have control over is how you respond or react to the circumstances
in your life. We couldn't be happier. =)
“Have patience with
everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Try to love the questions
themselves, like locked rooms and like books in a foreign language. Do not now
look for the answers. They cannot now be given to you because you could not
live them. It is a question of experiencing everything. At present you need to
live the question. Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find
yourself experiencing the answer, some distant day.
-Rainer Maria Rilke,
Letters to a Young Poet
